Are you struggling to cope, but feel like you should be? Do you feel guilty about not being able to cope, because there are other people dealing with situations that are worse than yours?
These feelings are incredibly common, and something that as counsellors, we come across often. People may feel guilty for reaching out for help, worrying that they are taking up valuable support time that could be used by someone who needs the help more than them.
This is especially prevalent in copers – people who are used to getting on with things and ploughing through, regardless of how they might be feeling. We also see this way of thinking in people who are in caring jobs or careers. There is a common misconception that people in these positions are not “supposed” to need support or counselling.
Resilience is like elastic: some days you will feel like you have lots to give, but some days you may feel that if you are stretched any more you will snap – and it will hurt! Keeping mentally well and taking care of your strength and resilience is really important. The longer we are under stressful conditions, whether we are aware of them or not, the more our strength and resilience are tested.
That’s why using the support around you is so important, even if it feels as though all you are doing is offloading.
To relieve oneself of (a problem or worry) by talking to someone else.
“it would be nice to be able to offload your worries on to someone.”
Calling support lines such as ours, even if you are just talking through your day, actually allows your mind to begin to make sense of what is happening. Speaking to someone you don’t know, who doesn’t have any expectations of you, can help you to feel stronger and more on top of things.
Due to the current crisis, a range of people from different backgrounds, professions and walks of life will find themselves needing more help and support than usual. Regardless of how big or small you think your problem is, if something is troubling you, remember that your feelings are valid – and we are here for you.
Don’t wait until you snap – get in touch today.